This is probably the hardest post I’m ever going to write. The past 10 years, I’ve had an amazing relationship with someone I treasure or, at least, I used to. In some cases, people change, especially the ones that were really close to you. You might be thinking that this is all a major downer but there is hope on the other side. I’m not cutting this person out for a bad reason. As much as it hurts to admit, I’ve been living with someone that is very negative. Do you know those people who hear something and it’s never good enough? These people that have always done something better and ten times more than you did? I guess you could call them arrogant people.
The past four months have been the toughest of my life. I’ve watched, before my eyes, the closest love I’ve known just disappear. Making matters worse, we live together which has been horrible. A house that was once filled with laughter has now become something more like a library. There is nothing like watching a relationship completely fade right before your eyes. Arguments turn into fights and eventually the fights stop. I used to think nothing could be worse than arguments until they don’t happen anymore. What I wouldn’t give for an argument just to know that person cared. I’m sure some of you know that feeling, it isn’t a great one to have.
Writing has always helped me get through extremely tough times. Day to day stress is something I’ve always been able to handle. However, this is something that is weighing heavily on me. I can’t continue to let this person gain control of my life and happiness. On most days, they use my happiness against me. I know things get bad when I no longer have the urge to spring out of bed. I’m usually like a cartoon character in how animated I am, ready to take on the day. The past four months, I’m lucky to not slump over before my feet hit the floor. When you feel down in the dumps, it feels like a weight on your shoulders that never leaves.
I’ve rambled long enough, let’s look at warning signs it’s time to give up that negative person. You will be amazed at how much better your upcoming days feel without a negative person around.
Person Constantly Puts You Down: Abuse, in any form, is not to be tolerated. You don’t have to be struck for abuse to occur. Mental abuse occurs when someone is berating you with words. From someone who has lived it, it can wreak havoc on your psyche. Don’t tolerate any putting that kind of pressure on you.
Negative Towards Your Goals: I’ve often felt that a negative person can transfer those traits onto someone positive. I’ve had negative friends and every time we hung out, I always felt so bummed afterwards. Don’t let a coward who lives in a nightmare take away from the bravery of your dreams.
What do They do for you: This was a question I had to ask myself before realizing who in my life was negative. If that person was out of my life, is there anything I would miss? It’s an important question to ask that will help you realize which people are great and which aren’t.